This is a really important distinction and indicates you understand what’s going on here.
It’s also the reason that stops many, many people on this site from DBing successfully and moving forward with their life. It’s been said once, it’s been said a thousand times - the person you once knew and loved is no-longer there, and what you covet (the old relationship with the old person) is simply not possible. Most times, that person that used to be has gone forever.
