Friends and family had a party for me Saturday night. W and son didn't come. I had a good time, but they not being there was beyond weird. Of course W sent our friend that owns the house we were at a pretty nasty text about how she was disappointed she wasn't at least invited. She also is still telling everyone that I"m stalling the process and she's getting very frustrated with how slowly things are moving. Said she was expecting to be divorced and the house sold in June (a month after BD).
Also found out my best friends W has been talking a good bit of [censored] about me to my W. Not too happy about that.
Last edited by DnJ; 08/07/2306:40 PM. Reason: Removed swear word.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
Thanks guys. Like I said, I know I have some of those characteristics. I'm sure everyone does. My W definitely does.
I don't think she feels guilty about anything. Like you said Joe, I know for a fact that she has her little group of cheerleaders telling her how strong she is, how big of a dick I am, etc. And they all agree that it's the best decision for everyone, followed with the worn out 'you go girl!'
She is completely convinced that I'm stalling and dragging this out as some sort of punishment for her. Tomorrow I meet w/ the L and hopefully sign the custody agreement.
Something I am very thankful for is that W's 2 best friends told her she was screwing up and needed to work on our M. That threw he for a loop. Another good friend wouldn't let her move into her place. That also messed up her plans. I am grateful that she has some actual good friends.
Somewhat off topic, and I'm almost sure it's meaningless.
Long story short, I"m able to access some of W's texts, internet searches, etc. IMO, W has been an alcoholic for years. Not that she drinks all day or anything, or even gets drunk every night. But I'd say 5-6 nights a week she drinks 1-2 bottles of wine, or several mixed drinks, beers, etc. This has been going on for years.
Anyway, some of her recent internet searches are geared towards chronic abdominal bloating and pain, and most recently cirrhosis (life expectancy, how to reverse symptoms, is it too late to stop drinking with cirrhosis, etc). Now, I search the web all day on all different sorts of things, and it's very possible she could be looking this up for a friend, a patient of hers, etc. But if not, it's at least something she's thinking/worried about.
If God forbid she's been recently diagnosed with something, why would she be hellbent on rushing the D? Obviously I can't mention anythign to her, but amongst her other internet searches (apartments, D questions, current events, etc), this was like the last thing I expected to see. Again, probably meaningless.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
Not that she drinks all day or anything, or even gets drunk every night. But I'd say 5-6 nights a week she drinks 1-2 bottles of wine, or several mixed drinks, beers, etc. This has been going on for years.
If I drank one or two bottles of wine in a night I’d be pretty drunk. And 5 or 6 times a weeks? That is certainly a significant amount.
I’d give her internet searches some credence. Life expectancy; abdominal bloating; how to reverse symptoms; is it too late to stop drinking, sounds like a person desperately searching for an answer, a cure.
Originally Posted by Terapin
If God forbid she's been recently diagnosed with something, why would she be hellbent on rushing the D?
I’d guess W hasn’t been officially diagnosed; more just searching up her pains and ills. After all, most folks grab onto denial first thing. And a diagnosis would have her searches more focused methinks.
Still, why would she rush? Desperate people do desperate things. W’s path is emotionally driven, it wont follow rational and logical reason.
Hang in their T.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Somewhat off topic, and I'm almost sure it's meaningless.
Long story short, I"m able to access some of W's texts, internet searches, etc. IMO, W has been an alcoholic for years. Not that she drinks all day or anything, or even gets drunk every night. But I'd say 5-6 nights a week she drinks 1-2 bottles of wine, or several mixed drinks, beers, etc. This has been going on for years.
Anyway, some of her recent internet searches are geared towards chronic abdominal bloating and pain, and most recently cirrhosis (life expectancy, how to reverse symptoms, is it too late to stop drinking with cirrhosis, etc). Now, I search the web all day on all different sorts of things, and it's very possible she could be looking this up for a friend, a patient of hers, etc. But if not, it's at least something she's thinking/worried about.
If God forbid she's been recently diagnosed with something, why would she be hellbent on rushing the D? Obviously I can't mention anythign to her, but amongst her other internet searches (apartments, D questions, current events, etc), this was like the last thing I expected to see. Again, probably meaningless.
Mate, I’d be taking screen shots of all those search results about alcoholism and putting them in a hidden folder on my phone. If this all turns nasty and there’s a custody battle, they would be very helpful to have.
Thanks guys. I've been going through some photo albums, documents, etc that are kept in her 'office'. I saw two books of hers that were titled something like 'how to stop binge spending'. She's run up tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt over the years. So yeah, she's typically able to recognize a problem and research a solution (not that she'll follow through). That's why the internet search threw me a little.
Now, I know what you're thinking guys, 'T, you're almost rid of a self centered alcoholic who runs up tons of debt, has no sex drive, doesn't cook, and is rarely involved in sons activities. AND, you're getting away with 50/50 custody, no child support, and no alimony. Why aren't you dancing naked through the streets?' Maybe I am the crazy one
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
Now, I know what you're thinking guys, 'T, you're almost rid of a self centered alcoholic who runs up tons of debt, has no sex drive, doesn't cook, and is rarely involved in sons activities. AND, you're getting away with 50/50 custody, no child support, and no alimony. Why aren't you dancing naked through the streets?' Maybe I am the crazy one
