Hi Joseph, you are right. I admit I reacted out of anger maybe because I checked the texts in her cell phone 2 days before. Probably I should stop doing that for the peace of mind. I also stopped dating her along the path due to known stressors but I admit that I failed to maintain the spark. Primarily it was my task as a husband and as a man. I did and am doing GAL and she noticed that but she as new "software" in her head right now so it is really hard to attract or somehow lure her back. Apparently she must go thru it on her own, hit the rock bottom and than maybe she realise that the grass is not always greener on the other side. She is now experiencing things she never experienced with me so she is biased and maybe thinks to herself that if she goes back everything would be as it was before. This OM shows affection, love-bombs her, declares eternal love everyday and she enjoys that. It is hard to prove that I am able to give her what she needs and fulfill all her secret needs as well because she built a wall. She is not attracted to me anymore so it does not make sense to write her "love letters" etc.. so yes the best approach would be doing GAL and all this stuff and maybe she realises along the path that I am the best catch for her. Or maybe I find someone else who will value me for what I am. Who knows.
