Thanks guys. Like I said, I know I have some of those characteristics. I'm sure everyone does. My W definitely does.
I don't think she feels guilty about anything. Like you said Joe, I know for a fact that she has her little group of cheerleaders telling her how strong she is, how big of a dick I am, etc. And they all agree that it's the best decision for everyone, followed with the worn out 'you go girl!'
She is completely convinced that I'm stalling and dragging this out as some sort of punishment for her. Tomorrow I meet w/ the L and hopefully sign the custody agreement.
Something I am very thankful for is that W's 2 best friends told her she was screwing up and needed to work on our M. That threw he for a loop. Another good friend wouldn't let her move into her place. That also messed up her plans. I am grateful that she has some actual good friends.