Until a court orders you, you are not forced to do anything. It is all agreements and settlements up to that point.

Knowing the statutes in you jurisdiction would be wise.
How booked up are the courts in your area?

Have you sat in any divorce proceedings in your area?

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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