Yes your are right. It seems so.. I cannot push her furter into his arms because she is already there. Now they have a "crisis"..trust issues, jealousy. So when I decided to contact OM for a serious talk, my W and OM were scared so this could be a nail into the coffin of their R. I am not scared to talk to him but it seems he does not want any other problems on top of the ones they alraedy have in their so called relationship. I will see in one week what my near future will look like..either D or my W returns back..