Hi Terapin, I did also those thinks like you (GAL, did not bring up the relationship, 180s..) but all those things just pushed my W and OM closer together. But true is that it helped me to get back on track with my life and sanity. She does not know that I can get in and read the texts. I took few pics of them already. The OM is extremly jealous and there is a big trust issue, as far as I could see in the texts. Yesterday I decided to call this OM because I wanted to talk to him (just talk, no beating lol). He did not pick up so I sent him a sms where I stated who I am and that I want to talk to him with like man vs man and that the show is over now and my patience is gone. He did not reply but re-sent it to my W. She called me than and asked what I want to tell him etc.. she kept protecting him as expected. I told her that its not her business what I want to tell him. She begged me for one more week so she can make up her mind about this situation. I said OK you have one week. I expect two scenarios. Either she dumps him or he dumps her (he seemed scared, jealous, and pissed off because he wants more and this situation does not suit him well since he is hiding himself like a rat), or she files for D. I know it's kind of controlling, but I did not want to wait passivly so I took this route. My so called boundaries.. so far it seems my W follows them, of course she is unable to switch off her feelings towards OM..
