A little less lost? Pt 3

[Pattnee5]

Omg STOP kind ☺️☺️
It’s only taken me 4 months of doing it wrong.
I can’t believe I did it properly for once

I think the biggest thing was the realisation that the marriage is over and we are headed to lawyers and separating. I think the fact I know it’s “done” in my head and stopped fighting it may have made it click ( plus some stern words from you guys)

I did slip up once just in passing this morning when he was saying he doesn’t know why he was so angry and agitated. I just mentioned in a very calm way that I too had noticed those personality changes and to me it was very similar to the way his dad used to act many years ago( around the same age). H used to always hate the way his dad was and treated his mother and would always say to me “ I never want to get like that please make sure I don’t”
I didn’t say anything bad but I just gently reminded him of how much he hated the way his dad was in his early 50s and how much it bothered him. He took that really well surprisingly maybe just my calmness. I know now I shouldnt have said anything as that’s R talk and I needed to avoid it at all cost but you live and learn