Here is what I'm afraid of - that my W is having a PA and my marriage is over. I didn't know how common a PA was in MLCs. It would appear that 100 percent of all people in MLC have an affair. And while I'm sure there may be exceptions, it doesn't seem like there are any. I read some of the stories on here of what spouses of MLCer have had to endure and I know I don't have it in me. I can take the months of being a whipping boy, talked down to, ignored, etc. But the betrayal of a PA would end everything and that isn't what I want. I could wait out everything else and continue to DB but not if she has a PA.
We have built a pretty good life together. We are financially well off, have a beautiful healthy family and by any standards lived a pretty fantastic life. Then this MLC alien appears and in a matter of a few months, it all stopped. If she is having, had or does have a PA then splitting time with kids, losing my house, splitting assets, looking for a new place to live, buying furniture, spending money on lawyers and all that a D entails scares the hell out of me. I just watched my best friend go through this and it was and is a nightmare a year later. He is a year past D and is in terrible shape mentally and financially. One of his two kids is in therapy over it. So all of these things scare the heck out of me.
