If he can come out the other side a happy, balanced, calm and reasonable person, then surely there’s hope for the rest of us!
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My W is on her way home with my two daughters and I'm honestly dreading her arrival.
I really think you should get some help with your fear. While I’m not judging you for ending up there (abusive and manipulative wives can really destroy good men), it’s something you need to at least acknowledge and decide consciously to work on.
Perhaps the motivation you need is this - when you react with fear and trepidation, you’re actually making yourself unattractive and pushing her away. Do you want to keep pushing her away, or do you want to work on it?
Something else that may help - what exactly are you afraid of?
The situation is currently thus - she’s announced her unhappiness, she is going to divorce you, and there’s potentially an AP in the mix.
I’m not sure things can get much worse - so what’s there to be scared of?
Imagine she comes home, screams at you, tells you she’s having an affair, and starts packing a bag… how’s that any worse than right now? When you have nothing left to lose, you have nothing to be scared of.
I’d suggest you stop worrying about her, get on with your life… if she comes home and you’ve got a few mates over for beers and watching the game, what’s she going to do?
The rub: women aren’t attracted to scared, weak, emotional and easily manipulated men - and you CAN do something about it!
