Thank you - I took your advice and spoke to her. She was absolutely rude to me but I feel better having taken the high road. In fact, I think she got even angrier with me that even dared to speak to her knowing full well that she is mad at me. The alien keeps her appearance.........
Be the safe one where she can express her anger. Show her you are not effected by her emotional state. Back when I was going through this, DBer talked about "putting on your rain coat" and let the venom fly. Practice your emotional validation statements. "You look angry" or "I can see why that would upset you" etc.
Small talk is fine, avoid bringing up R talks. If she does bring up R, you just STFU, give her your full attention and listen. Understand her story. Do not enter her state. You are the Rock. Throw in a few Emotional validation statements letting your you can relate to her emotional state.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
