If you are like most of us, we gave up some of our more masculine traits while being married. If so, you can start leading more. Since she went out tonight, let her know you are going out Friday night. If you want to be bold, let her know you have plans for the weekend and she needs to watch the girls. If she throws a fuss, you can propose a set parenting schedule.
I am totally family man and don't have a ton of guys I can go out with. And honestly, when I go out socially, I prefer to have my kids with me. I actually enjoy their company. I do realize I need to start GAL and that means time away from my daughters.
My W just left the house and got extremely angry with me. We had been getting along fine in each other's company but she just asked for some cash to go and I gave her a weird look. She took it the wrong way and stormed out. I tried to give her the money and she threw it at me. I didn't do a good job of DB but I did finally walk away. A month ago I would have called or texted her by now but I'll just let it go. Needless to say, I have a pit in my stomach and feel nauseous. Any progress I may have been making just took several giant steps back. The alien appears again!! Guys - I dont want to get divorced and want to fix this but I'm starting to feel hopeless. And I know even the best DB techniques don't always work. And I know I need to focus on me, GAL and be the best version of myself. But its so hard when you want something so bad, you can see that the other person is not who they used to be and its beyond frustrating when all you want is what you once had back...............
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