Sorry to read this. If you go back and read the beginnings of my thread, for one month after she BD'd me, I did most of the things we are 'supposed' to do. I never brought up the relationship, did plenty of GAL and 180s, and acted completely 'as if' with what was going on. I don't doubt for a second that these approaches are 1000x better than being a whiny baby, begging them back.
But, in my case, W took all of those things I was doing as an indication of me being completely happy and on board with divorcing, so she pushed forward with the D even harder.
My point is, every sitch, while most are similar, is different. Which is why I recommended to expose the affair, put her stuff on the curb, and file for D. The guy also deserves to have his ass kicked too.
Does she know you saw those texts? Can you get in there again and take pics of them? It's doubtful, but they may help when it comes to alimony. Plus it gives you proof WHEN you expose the affair to her parents and WHEN you file for D yourself, that you're not the 'bad guy' for filing.
She is probably laughing at those 'boundaries' you gave her. Look, I know it's the hardest thing in the world to do for those of us in these situations. But if you want even a glimmer of hope for a bright future, be it with your W, another woman, or most importantly yourself and kids, you need to man up and take immediate, decisive actions.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
