She may be temp checking, she may have had an argument with the OM and used you to feel better, she may feel guilty missing the birthday. It really could be anything, but it’s not her wanting to return to fix anything.
Maybe it’s time you sit down with your kids and ask if they’d like to see a therapist. I think you’ve been there for them more than most, but regardless of their needs, they are adults, you won’t be around forever, and they need to learn to have a relationship with their mother that’s separate from you. That’s just general advice from all the posts not just this one.
Honestly Rock, I don’t know you obviously, but you just seem like a shell of a person. Like the very definition of trudging through this.
I do believe in fixing marriages and I believe marriages can even come back from affairs.
I really believe in your case your only chance with your wife is to make her your ex. Grab this situation by the short and curly’s and, divorce her, become the best version of you and see if that catches her attention.
Even if you don’t wanna file, you are stuck and really don’t see it and that needs to change for you to have a chance.
Do you happen to live in the mid Atlantic region of the USA? I feel like you need a weekend with me lol.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
