Thanks Joseph I appreciate the input. Yes I totally get that she made her choice about this trip. And I have to assume it’s with OM. The female friend’s name that W mentioned is someone I know to be her friend but I had not been aware that friend was travelling with W but whatever.
I don’t understand point #4. Her checking in to see how I’m doing is new (since BD that has been exceptionally rare).
You said, “Rock I’ve alluded to this before, I really believe you use the special needs to keep contact more often than necessary. If it was that dire than why is she leaving for a month? And if it is that dire, why are you trying to fix a relationship with a woman who doesn’t seem to much care it’s dire?
I honestly believe your wife thinks you guys are friends and has been placating you through a lot of this.”
So that is true that I did accommodate more contact than I wanted with W in the fall and winter and I justified that because of S’s unique care needs and out of respect and honor of their relationship. I decided to change that approach shortly after I decided to stop facilitating family togetherness with W.
Now I am being more consistent in necessary communication only. And leaving W’s R with that S up to her as I have been doing with regards to our other young adult kids.
I have no history of self harm nor threats. W has done that to me however on occasion since BD.
