Yep, the rollercoaster ain’t a fun time. Detachment is the single best thing you can do for yourself. It allows you to stop being dragged about by W’s words and behaviour. You basically get off the ride and even leave the park.
Originally Posted by Keyser77
The up and down and looking for any glimmer of hope in what my W says or does.
I understand and empathize with you. Eventually you will lessen your need for glimmers and breadcrumbs of where W is, or might be, along her journey. Besides there are not a lot of “good” data points anyhow, as you said, believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. The extrapolated projection from such a data set doesn’t have much value.
Hope lives within the possibilities. The future is unwritten and unknown, and full of possibilities.
Remember, a beginner’s mind from DR. See things differently. Do a 180. Act as if. GAL.
Whatever changes you make, make them for you, and make then permanent. W is going to be doubtful for a while to any improvements of you. Just keep at it, and have faith.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
