Celebrated youngest S’s birthday here at our home. Had a wonderful party with a guest list that he compiled: his siblings, my parents, his uncles and aunts from both sides, a few of his close friends and MIL.
After guests had left, S told me, “I have things to say, but I think I need to be quiet and think,” then after I said, “ok,” he began to thoughtfully express his appreciation for me and his home and the party with people important to him.
I had quiet tears and gave him a hug.
W has been video calling, texting and emailing almost every day over the last week while she is away, sending selfies and other photos. There had been no contact either way for the first week. I have responded on rare occasions but not . For example, she asked for photos from the birthday party saying, “So fun. Wish I was there ☺️,” and I sent a few. She said, “Looks like a really wonderful party. You are brave to have all of those people over!”
I replied, “It was wonderful full of so much love.”
W video called (I didn't answer) and also texted earlier in the week acknowledging what I am doing caring for S and said, “I wanted to make sure you’re okay and see if you wanted to talk about it at all.”
I responded after 24 hrs by text, “thank you we are all doing very well.” Shortly thereafter she video called while S and I were driving in the car. S accepted the call and had a conversation with her. She told him about her trip. Mentioned a girlfriend who is on the trip with her (news to me) and some of the food and activities. W asked S how he is doing and he gave her an update basically saying he is doing great. She said hello to me and I said hello. W also asked S to show me photos she had sent to him. He did that later.
She texted me after and said “I’ll talk to you guys later. Have a fun day. 🥰”
I’m checking in here for some perspectives and guidance, DnJ, Kind, R2C, Joseph, and also thinking about you P5 with your H away on his holiday. This adds up to a lot of emotional turbulence for me and I’m managing ok. Staying focused following the plan for me.
I’m processing that this is a time for me to be cautious and stay within what limits are reasonable for me. For example, that was a lot of family and social for the party etc. and I need to continue GAL.
