My wife is definitely having a MLC. She is 49 and in the past 6 months or so has lost 20lbs, changed her wardrobe to much more revealing clothing - tasteful for the most part but a few outfits not appropriate, a lot of Botox, fillers, skin tightening procedures (no surgery as of yet), a whole new group of friends that she socializes with, much more drinking, spending money like crazy.
Hey Keyser: Quite a few parallels between your situation and mine. I don't think it's MLC in my W's case, though. What you, me, and a bunch of other people on here are going through is very common.
I wrote a lengthy post in my own thread regarding my W's seeming obsession with her appearance. When we married she weighed about twice what she does now and has always been self-conscious about her weight. I have never cared what she weighed, although I understand the health risks of being very overweight.
She had a couple of weight loss surgeries and dropped around 125 pounds; she recently underwent surgery to remove excess skin, fat, etc. following the weight loss. But she is going further than that and next she is having the flabby skin on her arms fixed and is going to have a breast lift.
Most likely, she would have done these surgeries eventually anyway, but the fact that they are coinciding with her quitting our marriage makes me wonder if there is OM in the picture or, if not, if she is doing it now so she can be "more attractive" and get a younger man or a man she thinks is better looking than me. (Note that she has always been a good-looking woman regardless of weight).
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
