Originally Posted by Terapin
She said 'you didn't need to pay for a L. We agree on everything'.

My W felt the same. After she filed, I got a letter from her L saying to have my L contact her within five business days.

I had a L on standby and paid the retainer. Unlike her, I don't have a father who is willing to pull large sums from his 401(k) for everything, so I took the money from our checking account.

She said she didn't know her L was going to send out a letter with that wording, as she wanted to do everything through her lawyer only.

She has informed me that my legal costs will be deducted from my house buyout payment.

Originally Posted by Terapin
On an unrelated note, my S is 13 days post tonsillectomy and still absolutely miserable. Ugh

Sorry to hear that. Hope he feels better soon.


Me 59 W 47
T 26 M 23
S18, S14
BD May 2023
D filed June 2023
OM1 confirmed: December 2023
OM2 confirmed: October 2023