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I agree completely with the comments regarding moving back to the master bedroom. A large percentage of men who arrive at this site are living in fear or have been beaten into submission by a woman threatening to leave.
Ironically, you won’t be attractive if you keep trying to please or appease her. She won’t like it when you move back to the master bedroom. She may scream, yell, threaten or move to the couch herself.
Don’t react, don’t argue, don’t be controlling and just listen to her concerns.
“That sounds tough for you.” “It sounds like you’re upset about this.” “You must be confused I’m moving back to the bedroom.”
But don’t waiver. Make sure you move back in before telling her and when she’s gone out, so there’s no chance of physical conflict. The only thing to say other than the validation statements above is “I’m choosing not to leave this marriage and I’m sleeping in our bed. But if you don’t want to sleep here, I respect your choice.”
Know that while she will be angry (because women who attempt to control men by threatening divorce can’t stand it when they feel like they’re losing control of you), she will actually start to respect you for being a strong man.
Keep your emotions in check. Calm, reasonable, strong.
