I’d tell my best friend that’s completely normal. You’ve spent years and years building a life and family with their person. They’ve imagined an entire life growing old together. Now that’s been unexpectedly been ripped apart, it wouldn’t be surprising at all to have occasional, TEMPORARY times of anger/sadness. I’d also say dreams while they’re grappling with this would be expected. I know I had lots of vivid and confronting dreams about my ex.
Question 2:
I’d tell them they’re a complete liar.
Pattnee - you are feeling and reacting to divorce just like everyone else does. Just let it wash over you. It doesn’t mean you’re slow to get over them, doesn’t mean you’re weird, doesn’t mean you won’t make it - it means you’re a normal person, with normal emotions and responses. It’s temporary. Don’t ignore or push down those feelings either. Acknowledge they exist. Embrace them.
The best way to think of those times of sadness and difficulty - they’re necessary steps to healing and the future. Every time they occur, you’re getting one step closer to your eventual happiness.
