Yes - the HRT is for menopause and to balance out hormones. Physically it works quite well. Mentally, I'm not so sure. Having spoken to other husbands who have or had wives go through menopause, its not a smooth ride.
I admit fault in things that I have done. And my wife did talk to me about things. I dont necessarily agree with everything but if she feels a certain way, I shouldnt discount those feelings. And I have done some bad things - mainly being verbally abusive. Not name calling or yelling but small put downs, not showing enough attention or appreciation are the two main things. I have not been the perfect H. I dont want to go on and on about the good things that I do because I feel like that would be deflecting but I am not the monster she paints me out to be.
Yesterday we talked quite a bit. Just normal talk and spent time as family together. I'm trying not to read too much into it as I know this is a roller coaster ride but its hard not to be encouraged. I am still sticking to the DB rules.
One of the things I am struggling with is my wife LOOOOOVES attention from me - PDA, compliments, hand holding, etc. I didn't do is much as she wanted throughout the R. When will I know when its ok to start doing it more. I want to do it but I know it will come off as fake or desperate if I do it now. Is it gut instinct when to start? Yesterday when we were hanging out, I did do some small things but didn't want to break any rules.
