There is nothing wrong with having sex. It’s enjoyable, fun, and might even stir some of those old feelings in her. You, don’t read too much into it. W is likely compartmentalizing sex from intimacy.
As you said, as long as there is no cake eating, it’s ok.
The potential downside is it prevents or hampers your detachment efforts.
Originally Posted by Keyser77
I'm afraid to ask but should I stop trying to initiate it?
One key DB item is, do more of what works and less of what doesn’t. For the time being, W is willing and even initiated things. It’s difficult to say, if you should alter the balance here. However, things might change anyhow with what I’m suggesting below.
Originally Posted by Keyser77
Our current situation is modified separation but living under the same roof, I sleep on the couch.
I’d suggest you reclaim the master bedroom again. Move back in. If she wants out of the marriage, she can sleep on the couch. Lots of folks walk on eggshells and don’t want to rock the boat. It’s a big 180 to not act out of worry and fear.
I read W49, D9, D12, and SS26. Married 19, together 26. How old are you?
I’m glad you posted. Yes, in that first post one is full of trepidation. Take care, you are among those that empathize and understand.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
