But do you happen to know statistically which approach is better in terms of future possible reconciliation? What is the success rate for your approach?
I do not have statistics on the reconciliation rates, for any approach. And speaking of statistics, this site is a subset of the broader population. For those here that do reconcile, they may not come back and share that. Reconciliation takes work and time. Updates and postings require both of those as well, and one’s resources are finite.
My approach, which is not mine (lol), the approach I more propose is to heal thyself. To work on that which you can control - which is you.
A relationship takes two committed people. You are one. You can do your part, yet W still needs to step up. That is something beyond your control.
You become the best version of yourself. A man only a fool would leave.
Success rate: IMHO, my approach has near 100% success. You will be a success, regardless of martial status!
This healing path allows one to let go. To define success. True, deep, genuine success. Those deeply held beliefs and convictions. Life’s tenets.
It is counterintuitive at first. And frankly, I hated it when I was starting out. We are forced upon a path we didn’t want, nor choose. Yet, this is an incredible opportunity for self growth. It’s more than the mere silver lining of some dark terrible cloud. Honestly, it is a golden opportunity. Make the most of it.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
