So the latest update in the world of crazy MLC/limerant H!
I didn't meet him last week because he cancelled after getting back together with OW. Son & daughter were forthright with their comments to him about messing me about when I'm moving on. I just stayed out of it & focused on me. I didn't experience any strong feelings no sadness, no anger if anything, there was just a little pity about what his life has become. He went to a festival with OW & her kids last weekend. I'm due to go on holiday with daughter & my parents/sister etc tomorrow.
8am this morning he turns up at the house. Son answered door & he left him outside while he got me. H came in said Son had told him I was happy & moving on. He doesn't want to mess me about and realises that he has been doing this. Cares deeply for me... always will... Thinks he should give me a clean break & divorce. I said if that's what you want then you need to sort it out. He said he wouldn't take anything, wants it to be amicable, wants us to be friends. I said I wouldn't sell the house till kids left home & he agreed. H then teared up saying how he still cares & knows that I still care about him too etc. I just validated saying 27 years together is a long time. Its understandable that there will still be feelings.
I said it was an odd time to come round to discuss something so big and it would have been better to arrange a time to meet instead of the morning before I go away on holiday but I thanked him for being reasonable & said I'll leave that for you to sort if that's what you want. He then left with tears in his eyes.
I don't know how I'm feeling now. I'm fairly certain this is anchor checking but it does still hurt. It's only just happened and I know these feelings will pass. I've not had feelings of sadness for quite a while though.
