My mind does struggle with understanding and implementing DB to be sure. It is counterintuitive in some ways and these things are not openly talked about in the circles that I come from.
I struggle with the concept of no R talks. Sometimes on these boards I will lose a question. Or dilemma to the group “knowing” the DB answer but still wrestling with it. As F2C said, come here and run it past us first. I have actually not been having R talks. Yes there was that time I accepted a “date” with W about a month ago and she initiated a big talk. I listened validated and STFU. And it took a big toll on me.
My mind goes to a place of if we don’t talk through and deal with stuff am I just being stuck stubborn and cowardice? Would a 180 be to face fears and talk it through and make some steps in a direction- any direction without ultimatum or pressure?
I don’t know. I think she would perceive it as pressure and a reason to escalate things. It seems to me that I need to act rather than talk.
I recognize that we are not at a place of working on the M. And I think I am closer to what Kind and R2C have just posed to Peter Pan.
