Rock I popped in after a few months hiatus to find out that you’re still stuck. In your defense you are getting conflicting advice. You are being told to believe nothing she says, feelings are fleeting and to detach and you’re also being to to divorce her and get a girlfriend.
I still would like you to answer the question if you can just sit with your feelings for a day without the help of your kids, priest, garden or dance instructor? If the answer is no we have a bigger issue then your wife tramping around another country.
