Not really tracking with you through all this here Joseph though you make many valid points I’m in therapy - looking after myself and home and family. And to suggest that this shouldn’t affect our kids and it’s not about them well that’s an interesting take - just not an accurate read on how things go all the time.
I don’t see W as a horrible person at all. She has made choices though that have consequences and I am not attracted to who she has become and the way she is living.
Besides therapy how would you recommend I approach this?