Boundaries are by you - and for you. If your boundary is in two weeks you walk away, you don’t have to tell her. I’m pretty sure you’ve already made it clear you don’t agree with her banging another guy. She knows it’s not okay. All you’d be doing is saying “I’ve allowed you to cheat for 3 months, now I’m saying you can do it for 2 more weeks.”
If your boundary is TRULY two weeks, then do it. Go and see two or three lawyers in your area for a free consult and tell them what you’re planning and roughly what you’d want.
And with legal advice, in two weeks, move her stuff into storage, change the locks, and send her an email:
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Dear Wife,
You’ve made it clear you wish to cheat with another man.
My patience has run out. I now choose to accept your decision.
I have placed your things in storage at xxxx. I have paid for the first month. The access code is xxxx. I have changed the locks at the house and you will need to find temporary accomodation elsewhere.
The custody arrangements will be that I have the kids xxxx and you have them yyyy.
Beyond that, your thoughts on final custody arrangements and financial settlement can be negotiated with my lawyer, not me. My lawyer’s contact details are xxxx.
Best, PeterPan
If you’re not prepared to go all in like that ⬆️ then don’t bother giving her ultimatums, just keep your mouth shut and play the long game like DNJ suggested.
Good luck!
You can edit your email as many times as you want before sending it.
My Spin:
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Dear Wife,
You’ve made it clear you no longer want to be married to me. I accept your decision.
I have placed your things in storage at xxxx. I have paid for the first month. The access code is xxxx. I have changed the locks at the house and you will need to find temporary accommodation elsewhere.
The custody arrangements will be that I have the kids xxxx and you have them yyyy.
Beyond that, your thoughts on final custody arrangements and financial settlement can be negotiated with my lawyer, not me. My lawyer’s contact details are xxxx.
Best, PeterPan
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
