Having some characteristics is not close to the same.
The fact you are sitting here wondering about it, trying to process it, and you took it negatively, you aren't a narcist. Hell the fact you are even here proves you aren't.
You are correct, it is the new buzz word, and it's an easy out for people to excuse their trashy behavior. Don't give it another thought, she's justifying her crappy decisions with her friends, that's it, nothing more to see.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11