That’s exactly where I’m at. Ready to try something different. I need to.
Keep focusing on me yes. Look after my home and family and get back to work successfully and healthy. Keep GAL.
Otherwise though something different to get better and to detach.
These statements contradicts themselves.
We don't have a choice but to take what you say at face value, but I...and I'm sure others, are having a really hard time with this.
Rock you staying the course has gotten you absolutely no where. Your kids are adults, and your daughter is closer to 30 than 20, but these conversations sound like they are coming from younger kids...and even than...I'm struggling to understand why people in their 20s are still stuck on their parents divorce a year later. You're obviously co-dependent on, well your wife and kids, and I'm wondering if your kids are co-dependent on you and your wife. Your kids are in the mid 20's sitting around the house a year later saying they miss mom. Why? Why do they miss mom? Why can't they talk to her, see her, visit her or do whatever they want when Mom's in town? Or is it Mom's gone for a month and that's the issue? Your divorce should have absolutely zero to do with them. They shouldn't be as stuck as your Rock, and in your own sadness that you continue to wallow in with the aww shucks attitude, your entire family is stuck. That's not being a lighthouse or rock. That's holding your kids back, and how you don't see that just shows how deep you are in your despair.
I hope you understand you NEED COUNCILING one way or another. That would be your something different to get detached. No need to tell us about dancing, or visiting friends, or conversations with the community that should have happened 8 months ago...move forward. Get you and your kids in therapy as soon as possible. Stop screwing around hoping as long as you stand still she'll eventually come back. Quite honestly, if your spouse was this horrible woman, she would have called the police on your for stalking. She would take advantage of you financially at every turn, and she would turn the kids against you.
None of this is happening, you know what she's doing, moving on. You know what you are doing, giving her every reason to never look back.
Sorry for the harshness, but as someone who does have full custody of minor children that were abused, it burns my *** to see you basically write out your adult kids are regressing, and you are flat out ignoring it by not addressing you or them.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
