…I feel I must act somehow. Obviously she has zero respect towards me as a husband and a human being.
Do not take actions based upon feelings.
Feelings are fleeting. They will change. And then so does the “reasons” for what you did. Act upon logic and reason and conviction; and right now that is going to take some time to sort out. Your feelings are understandably all stirred about.
Respect:
Concerning W. The root problem is W has little, to no, respect for herself. She needs to sort out her stuff before she can extend respect, trust, and such to others.
Concerning you. Do you respect you? Do you respect the path you are taking or considering? That is the person’s respect you are truly after. Your’s.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
