The day I found she had been texting an ex saying “sorry I stuffed things up with you all those years ago”, I should have kicked her out and exposed it.
20 years ago, one of my friends found out his wife was having sex with her boss. The first thing he did was go to her parents house, drank a beer with her dad and let him know what she was doing. After that, he changed the locks and told her he was done, she can go live with her boss. I believe both of those were good decisions on his part. The long one hesitates, the more the cheating spouse can spin a new story.
In your case, I recommend taking some time to weigh all of your options and make some decisions. But, do not wait too long. Read the boundary thread many times.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
