I understand but how I can ensure she is not going to see him at work nor chat with him over viber?
You can’t. You won’t. It’s impossible.
This is the NUMBER 1 THING I see newcomers to this site struggle with - the need to control. Mate, you’re a passenger on this ride and you can’t get off.
I know you think you’ve done the right thing by telling her you don’t want to see or hear about OM.
But what you’ve actually done, is given her a green light to continue her affair. You’ve said “you can keep sleeping with another guy, and as long as you hide it from me, I’ll allow it.”
I hate to tell you this, but your marriage is over. And you yourself put the final nail in the coffin when you allowed her to keep doing it once you found out.
Have some self respect. File for divorce, throw her stuff on the kerb. While you hang onto hope that you can nice her back and she might wake up, it will never happen.
This was also my number one mistake and I’m happy to admit it. The day I found she had been texting an ex saying “sorry I stuffed things up with you all those years ago”, I should have kicked her out and exposed it. I didn’t, and we bumbled along for another four years until eventual bomb day and acrimonious divorce.
Don’t you deserve someone who loves and respects you as much as you do them?
