what to do next..

[Terapin]

There may be some wisdom in the 'boundaries' thread.

To me, boundaries are similar to ultimatums. If you aren't prepared to enforce them, you're going to appear even weaker. I'm honestly not sure what you can do at this point that would have an impact. Like, if she was always screaming at you about stuff, your boundary could be 'I'm ending this conversation because I refuse to be spoken to like this'.

They're always going to find ways to justify their behavior, mostly by blaming the spouse. Don't buy into it or take it personally. What are they going to say 'ya I'm a selfish skank that couldn't care less about my family'? Her not looking at you could be a sign of guilt on her part, or a sign of not respecting you. IMO it doesn't matter at this point.