I understand but how I can ensure she is not going to see him at work nor chat with him over viber? I cannot controll this. 2 months back I had a very strong discussion where I set up boundaries that she is not gonna see him in front of my eyes and thus far she respects it. She goes to work and back home and when she goes out to manage something in the town she is informing me where she is and when she comes back. We do not sleep together. I sleep with older daughter (6yo) in the kids room and she sleeps with younger one (4yo) thus I cannot controll her regarding chatting with OM. Even if she tell me she stops an affair I have no power to verify or controll her. But I am planning to fill in divorce papers and have a final talk with her asking her if the affair continues and if she confirms then I will tell her either she moves out of our flat or I file for divorce if she is not willing.. I still can cancel this divorce process. Here it takes months to be processed especially if kids are involved..
