Thank you DnJ for your words. I am going to get DR book soon and I agree with all what you have written. But it is hard for me to cope with the fact that she is cheating on me in front of my eyes and is unable/not willing to stop it. Do you happen to know how long does it take for limerence to wear off? I am very patient but not sure if I will be able to handle it for some years..She is in limerence for the last 8-9 months already. What if she just decides to not leave the marriage but to still carry on with an affair like it is now so she has her cake as welll as OM? In this case I am affraid she never experiences real life with OM, everything will be like rainbows and unicorns forever. This could take literally years. Not sure if I am prepared for such a life in an agony, I also need wife/partner not just roommate.. this OM is divorced with one kid in joint custody, he is 10 years older than my W so for him my wife is best catch. He will never let her go voluntarily. I know mabye I am concerned too ahead but such thoughts come to my mind.
