Thank you so much for your encouragement and advice. With boundaries (when I know where I have to set them which is a work in progress), I used to say I was going to set a boundary (which then triggered anger from H). I now just set them without saying anything to protect myself and worry about H’s reaction later.
The trouble I have is knowing when I need to set them and I’ve realised it’s when I feel uncomfortable in any way shape or form and then knowing what boundaries to set.
I really appreciate you pointing out not to overthink and what advice Kind18 gave to you. It’s just a waste of energy.
I am keen to keeping reading what is going on with you to learn more there too.
I do hope your sitch improves
Me 49 H 61 T 8yrs M 1.5yrs LAT H filed for D from XW ‘18, granted ‘19 We M ‘22 H in EA with XW (lying about contact, evidence of Affair contact) BD Aug ‘23
