Concerning your two questions. I don't understand the first one.
Question 1: When writing to them, address them by the name that you have always used. If you are referring to here...do not put any given names here. It is best to just call him your "h".
Question 2: They are reliving their pasts, therefore, many of them will either move back home or in the area where they grew up. They must revisit the past in order to move forward. Eventually, he may very well get tired of the questions and suggestions by his parents and siblings and opt to move out. Like some young people, they move out, spread their wings and then discover it's nicer to live at home. Remember, you are dealing with an adolescent right now...not a grown man. He has to grow up and the only way to do that is to go back in time. This crisis stuff reminds me a lot of the movie Benjamin Buttons many years ago and by the end of the movie, he was an infant again. Hopefully, your h will realize that he needs to grow up and face the fact that he cannot change what happened in the past.
Glad the threads have helped you. Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
