Learning the ropes 2

[Pattnee5]

Thanks MA for your kind words. Yes it certainly has been different for me because he has been so present. It was so hard to navigate. I may have been a complete shamble if he went zero contact but who knows.

I can def see all the things I have done wrong. I wasn’t firmer on my boundaries, let him come and go as he pleased really and seesaw between giving me hope ( false hope it seems now) with spending time together then ripping it all away. It certainly has been a journey.

I have started to implement some boundaries( which I don’t think have gone down too well as he has stormed off a few times)
I read something ages ago about ways that can really turn a separation around is attraction, connection and good separation boundaries. Well I think I did the GAL and the attraction ok but absolutely failed in the boundaries and maybe even the connection.

Now I am in a position where I don’t even know how to act around H without coming across angry or mean)
Goodness me what a balance act.

I think that’s such a positive step for your H to recognise he isn’t ready to talk as he doesn’t want to hurt you. He’s actually thought enough about your well-being first. ( or so we hope)
What a big move to actually acknowledge that and acknowledge the previous hurt he caused you.
Sounds like you’re doing all the right things at the moment and how amazing to rediscover yourself