Her: “Can we talk?” You: “I’m cooking my dinner, and then I’m going out to see a friend/to the gym/for a run.”
That’s it 🤷♂️
Every time you engage, you lose. You can never say the right thing. No-one on DB.com can teach you what to say, how to “win” these conversations or what are the “right things” to say to get your spouse back. It can’t be done.
If they say “I feel like…” you say “okay, it sounds like you’re feeling…” and then you leave. Validate and leave.
If they ask for a conversation or interaction, the answer should always be “I have plans”.
IE: STFUGAL.
This is definitely an important behavior change for the men here.
While married, you most likely learned some very unattractive behaviors to "keep the peace". I sure did. Gaining respect is a skill that should now be at the top of your list. Confidently walking away from her to do your thing. Stay in your frame. Be the most interesting guy while you are out and about. Do not be afraid to interact with women. Hold your boundaries. The list goes on and on. Come up with your own list.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
