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[Sunflyer]

Sounds like a fun day.

He did better with the rollercoasters than I'll ever do. I do ride the tame ones, but don't do well once we get into big drops and going backwards. My son got me onto one once that was indoors and that I didn't realize was actually a coaster. Before the ride started, I saw the track going up and thought we would crawl up it and then slide down. We got shot over the drop like we were coming out of a cannon.

My reaction wasn't pretty lol.

[DnJ]

Good Morning T

Good for son! Ride those rollercoaster! I just love rollercoasters. Lol.

Keep on keeping on T. You got this.

D

[Terapin]

Thanks. W went to a concert Saturday. Left at noon, got home at 2:30am. Not one call or text to son. Yesterday she stayed in the bedroom all day and said nothing to anyone. I asked once how the concert was and she started rattling off details about it.

I'm going to ask her tonight what the delay is regarding the revised custody agreement. It's been 3 weeks. I could have revised it in 30 seconds.

[DnJ]

Good Morning T

Dig for patience. Let her drowned in plenty of time and space. You’ve no need to push for a speedy custody revision. You’ve no need to charge forward with this. Focus on you and son. Only respond to her and her proposals, not lead or prompt her. Let her own the heavy part of this.

Time is a companion along your journey. Uncertainty is also your journey’s friend. Be Terapin2.0.

Stand for you.

D

[Ready2Change]

I'm going to ask her tonight what the delay is regarding the revised custody agreement. It's been 3 weeks. I could have revised it in 30 seconds.

Until there is an agreement, you get all the time you want with your son. During this part of the process, I would take advantage of this if I was in your shoes.

One of the first pieces of advise I got from a close friend after BD:
"Immerse yourself into sons bubble. Stay out of W bubble."
Wise words.

[Ready2Change]

Yesterday she stayed in the bedroom all day and said nothing to anyone.

My X did that as well. Not your rodeo. She needs to go through this without you. You need to GAL with son to the max.

I asked once how the concert was and she started rattling off details about it.

Did you practice emotional validation? I would like to suggest that you do some thinking about if/when/how/why you ask questions like this in the future. Again, if it works, keep doing it. If not, stop and try something else. Think hard about what your definition of "Works" is.

[Terapin]

LOL @ my W. We chatted for a bit about son's upcoming surgery.

Then she's like:

W: 'hey, did you get a chance to go over that custody agreement?'
Me: 'what custody agreement?'
W: 'the one I gave you like 3 weeks ago'
Me: 'Ya, I said 3 weeks ago that it needs to be 50/50'
W: 'So you're not going to sign it?'
Me: 'Not till it says 50/50. I thought I was clear about that'
W: 'I don't see what the difference is? We're going to work out what's best for him. We just need something on paper'.
Me: 'If there's no difference, then change it to where I get the extra day per week'.
W: 'It's fine, I can get it changed to 50/50. That's no problem'.

[DnJ]

Me: 'If there's no difference, then change it to where I get the extra day per week'.

Lol! That’s perfect!

Definitely do not sign anything unless you are satisfied. Well done T.

D

[Terapin]

Son's having his tonsils out in the morning. I know it'll be fine, but I'm worried about it. I know how painful that recovery is. So naturally W hands me her revised custody agreement a few minutes ago.

This woman has absolutely zero sense of timing, awareness, whatever. Just a complete, zeroed-in b!tch (pardon my French).

The good news is, the agreement appears to be completely 50/50. The other good news is, I can no longer even stand to be in the same room as her. It's going to be hard spending the day with her in the hospital tomorrow. The sooner this is over the better.

[DnJ]

Get well for son! Praying his tonsils go smoothly and his recovery is speedy and problem free.