Thank you for my welcome and the Welcome pack. I’m really looking forward to all of your help and feedback, and eventually contributing when I have something to give away.
H and I have always LAT because the Skids lived with him full time (went to their M’s on weekends) up until 2 yrs ago. SD living with her M full time and coming to visit H when she can. Our idea was that H would join me to LT when SD was launching on her own. TBH, I’m not in any hurry at the moment to LT and have given up on our dreams that we once had.
XW (EW) didn’t give a fig that we were together in the beginning. She started pursuing when things got serious between us. Ranting and crying when we got engaged. Since H and I have been together she has never had boyfriend. Some dates apparently. When H and I met, they had been separated for about 6yrs. H had been dating and in a serious relationship between formal separation and meeting me. Since just before our wedding XW uses many excuses to see H. They used to live around the corner from each other and now she lives 2hrs away.
I will unpack along the way. I will try and stick to small frequent posting. The load is huge and reading back through my first posts, everything seems disjointed. I’m so overwhelmed that I have suppressed memories, feelings, anger. I’ve stopped crying. I used to cry a lot. I feel like a deer in the headlights because I feel it’s going to get a lot worse before it gets better.
Me 49 H 61 T 8yrs M 1.5yrs LAT H filed for D from XW ‘18, granted ‘19 We M ‘22 H in EA with XW (lying about contact, evidence of Affair contact) BD Aug ‘23
