I’m still so lost -Pt 2

[Pattnee5]

Thanks D
Yes we sat yesterday and had a talk obviously I haven’t had my legal advice yet and he has, and of course the same day I hear the news of the potential move for a portion of time. He wants to remain as amicable as possibly and said the kids are his number one priority so doesn’t want to rip anyone off. He did say regardless where he is he does want to still provide the support that decided on and wants us to remain in the house for as long as possible. Our laws here may be different and he is only internally moving for a current big project. So who knows I haven’t really given any further thought but am definitely getting my advice too.
I too want to remain as amicable as possible and hold my head high with dignity too. However I will ensure I protect myself and the kids.

I am glad you too think it’s “running” . I understand his wording of good for his future career but I just hear running from your problems. At some point these people must come out of their cave and realise that they are very lonely without their family around I guess it’s up to them to realise( or not )
I do realise I need him to do this journey alone to find his purpose I would hate to be the reason he spiralled further into his hole or depression

I am better now after a teary morning and feeling blue. I am at peace with him going and whatever is happening. I actually want to even rise above and make it more a friendship now purely for the kids. There has been no yelling or anger but i keep thinking I am standing tall
And these small action I am just so proud of in myself. I am actually shocking myself. I am just focused on the kids and making this as smooth as possible.
I don’t imagine he could be a great parent from the other side of the world for months on end but of course anything that requires a mutual decision I will discuss
I now become the mother and father for a while