Welcome to the forum. I see you are reading DR and some threads. Very good!
I am copying the welcome thread below for your reference as well, it is full of links to a wealth of useful information.
From what I read, you and H dated for four years, then his divorce was finalized, continued dating and you two married three years later. Has XW been pursuing H the entire eight years? When did you and H start living apart together (LAT)?
By the way, I did get your inquiry into the face emoji and OP meanings. As far I can tell, the emoji signifies if that poster is online or not - grey and indifferent is offline, smiling is online; and OP means original poster.
I look forward to conversing with you. Hoping you have a good day.
Take care,
DnJ
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Welcome to the board.
Sorry you are here but you will meet some wonderful people here and get some great advice.
The first thing you should do is be sure to read the Divorce Remedy (DR) book by Michele Weiner-Davis. The following link is the first chapter:
Once your registration to the site has been completed you can post and start a thread. Please have only one thread active at a time (per forum); it keeps your situation organized and is easier for those following along and posting to you. There are a few forums which help categorize posters’ situations.
When your thread reaches 100 posts, it will be time for you to start a new thread. It is a good idea to link your old thread to your new one, and even link the new one back to the previous one. That makes it easier for the folks following your story. (There is a help thread on linking in the sticky threads at the top section of the forum’s display.) A moderator will “close” your full thread which prevents further posting to it. It is still available to read.
Post in small frequent replies on your thread. Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity can be very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down.
Post on other people’s thread to give support.
Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL).
DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
