H and I met OL and we talked for 4 mths before we met. Six months into our courtship, H told me he was only S from EW. I was livid and left him for a while until he absolutely pursued me back in. My ego was huge and we were in early stages of limerence. I told H that if he wanted to be with me, he would have to D his EW. H agreed and obviously went ahead and did it. I look back now and should have said, ‘let’s get together when you are D.’ H even agreed. I was stupidly, madly in love. I have been through his D settlement as well. I’m angry with myself and I know that there is nothing I can do now because it is in the past. What I feel now is that, we have never had the chance to really consummate our M (not sexually); but, emotionally, because H won’t allow it, EW won’t allow it and SD won’t allow it. I talked to SD the other day and said how close I was to my father and how important it is that H and her spend time together. I also said I was on her side and will offer to be away at times so H and her can have one on one time together.
Me 49 H 61 T 8yrs M 1.5yrs LAT H filed for D from XW ‘18, granted ‘19 We M ‘22 H in EA with XW (lying about contact, evidence of Affair contact) BD Aug ‘23
