I’m still so lost -Pt 2

[Pattnee5]

Sorry to read that, but you seem to be doing well. I'm starting to think, that even when our spouses do have 2nd thoughts, they feel like they can't go back. Maybe it's pride or something. Every time I thought my W may be reconsidering (being nice, helpful, asking me to do stuff, etc), it was soon followed up with a gut punch. And yes, bringing up stuff from the past is their way of justifying their current actions/decisions.

When a relationship ends, the person that ends it only remembers the bad times. While the person left behind only remembers the good times. The truth is likely somewhere in the middle, but both people are usually too stubborn to admit it.

Thanks terapin. I know he is just projecting and shifting blame by saying it’s all my fault, he doesn’t have the mental maturity now to see things logically. He was never like this, ever. The alien stole my H 😂😂

Ego and pride def is creeping in now. Stubbornness too. He’s made up his mind he’s told his family now he can’t possibly back down because what will they possibly think? To me he is still on a see saw. I remember the good and bad but so true H is all about the bad. The bad is just our opportunities for growth. He can’t rememberanything now with his alien glasses on.
What can I do. I am feeling very much impartial now