Realize H is on his path. Most of his blaming is projection since he cannot blame himself. He will twist and manipulate his world to fit whatever it is he feels he needs at that moment.
DNJ is 100% correct.
People in affairs or MLC don’t have the internal strength to admit it, and often have spent a whole life playing victim in their own mind.
It’s impossibly difficult for them to continue forward with a bad view of themselves. So they do the only thing they know how - they project blame onto their husband/wife… that way they can forge ahead with their crappy behaviour and yet it’s not their fault.
Most importantly for you, Patnee, you can’t do or say or be anything which is going to change him or wake him up. You being at fault is his get-out-of-shame free card.
