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[Terapin]

Good Morning T

Yep, after a time we feel differently.

I think I'll apologize when she wakes up (in 4 or 5 hours).

She may have some pent up stuff to say as well. She might even flip out too. Remain calm, do not add more fuel to the fire.

W has made a clear declaration of intent. Until she burns through her present feelings, she will not experience regret and remorse of the loss; feelings which would be more helpful to your cause.

LRT. Let go T. Become the gray rock. Focus on you and son.

Are you wanting to apologize to make her feel better, or you feel better? Was anything you said untrue? In my opinion, the message was true, it’s the delivery method and the colourful descriptions of her and her sister that could have been better, or avoided.

Trying to backpedal last night will likely bring about more feelings of resentment in W. Perhaps, no verbal apology, just move forward. Calmly and detached. If you do apology, be specific as to what you regret.

Hang in there T.

D

Thanks. I did say:

T: 'I'm sorry for some of the things I said last night.'
W: 'Look, I know you're struggling with this when it comes to S. I am too.'
T: 'I just feel that while no time is great to tell him, aside from like Xmas eve, this is the worst time'.
W: 'You may be right. But people, like my L, have been telling me our house needs to be on the market asap. I don't want this dragging into the school year. But we can slow things down if you want'.
T: 'I'd have to think about that.'

We're all planning on going to a party this afternoon. Should be interesting.