Hi Eagle, I'm largely silent here these days, but I have to weigh in here since much of this discussion centers on G, his feelings, his actions, etc.
Let's flip this and focus on the real jewel in the crown: YOU.
It's so easy to be drawn into the chaos that surrounds someone in a crisis, mid-life or otherwise, losing sight of ourselves, what we want, what's important to us, in the process.
We cannot fix anyone else.
We cannot heal anyone else.
Most importantly, we need to be aware of the fact that weak people often use the compassion and kindness of others as a crutch.
Practice fierce compassion, but do not lose sight of your own wants, needs, desires, goals, and especially keep those boundaries firm. Sounds like they're wavering, since the talk is a whole lotta G not so much Eagle.
Take him out of the equation.
What's new with you?
What are your aspirations for the future?
How close are you to achieving your near-term goals?
What are your get a life activities separate from G or your children?
Have you read any good books lately? Seen any good movies?
Are you dating?
Are you trying any new hobbies?
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
